1. David Morgan says:

    Hey Guys. Great first Podcast. After listening to it I wish I had the opportunity to partake in this one. I think I was on vacation in Kauai with my wife when you were recording it.

    Anyway, I have a couple points to add.

    As far as the statistics go, the 50% divorce rate and even more that separate blah blah. First of all, I’m not one to take any statistics to heart. Most of all though, I think statistics are the last thing on a couples mind who is truly in love. In comparison, does a ten year old look at a remote control car and decide not to buy it because there’s a 50% chance it will break in a week? No. The week with that remote control car may be the most memorable week of that kids young life. Sure, there may be pain and hurt after it breaks, but the time spent with it, while it lasted, was more than worth never having that experience in the first place. I’m not a big country music fan, but my southern roots hearken me to quote a Garth Brooks song, “I could have missed the pain, but I would’ve had to miss the dance.” I also think the movie, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, does a great job of showing the worth and enrichment a relationship adds to your life. At times, it can be extremely frustrating and infuriating, but hopefully the good times, perfect moments and treasures of that relationship far exceed the bad times. If something went wrong and my relationship ended with my wife, would I regret ever getting married and having that relationship in the first place. No, I’d do it all over again.

    I think fear and security play a big factor in why some people don’t get married or actively seek a relationship. There’s a comfort zone there, they like their space or whatever the case may be. That’s great. I was single for a long time, shy around girls, etc. But it was great times and I wouldn’t trade that experience for the world either. When I did go on dates I knew from the first one if it was going to work out or not. When I knew it was going to work out, I jumped on it like a kid in the candy store. If something amazing falls in to your lap you can do 2 things; sit back, wait, assess the risks involved or you can can jump in blindly and see where it takes you. Who’s to say which choice will ultimately be better?

    I also think it’s difficult for someone who has not experienced a long term relationship or marriage to accurately criticize one. They’re on the outside looking in to an experience they know very little about. I can see how the media, bad relationships, etc would lead many people to wonder why someone would ever get married in the first place. But let’s face it, this is America, good news doesn’t exist. A wonderful, happy relationship doesn’t sell, so of course we’re going to hear nothing but the negative side from the news, media, statistics or whatever.

    Maybe it has something to do with our parents too. I grew up in a healthy family environment. I saw my parents get in to a big fight maybe 3 or 4 times. The rest of the time they truly enjoyed each others company. Growing up in that environment made me realize that marriage can work, and it’s a beautiful thing to experience when it does.

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  3. brett maurer says:

    interesting group you have talking about marriage there…

  4. brett maurer says:

    Sorry, I hit “add comment” before I was done. This podcast seems a bit subjective doesn’t it? I would hope for a bit more… especially at an age when it is a bigger issue for a lot of the “quarterlivers.”

    • Mari McGrath says:

      Isn’t it that our experiences through the quarterlife crisis are subjective and we are relaying varied perspectives on that situation? I apologize if you felt we were biased to one degree or the other, but the QL experiences is about individuals coping with life experiences, not regurgitating the objective opinions of earlier generations that may have lead to this phenomena. Sure we all need some help through our twenties, but its also of help to know that there are other people out there going through the exact same things, and learning from their individual insights.

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